Oh my goodness, what a shocker

I should clear something up. I'm not a cynic, if you want to learn what a cynic is, go study philosophy. Nor am I a pessimist, I don't automatically think things are going to always turn out for the worst. I'm nost a 'glass is half empty' kind of guy. I'm a sceptic. Some people would say I'm a skeptic, but they never learned how to spell. People then think I am by nature suspicious of everything in the world around me. Again, untrue. I am fearful for the lack of use of the human intellect and I question why those conditions exist. For instance, ...here's my chance to say I told you so. I recently wrote an article (scroll down, you'll find it) being all of the above about online dating. Yes, I was, sceptical, cynical and pessimistic. Suspicioius and fearful. All of those things, yep, I should be embarrassed. But then, I see this:

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/video/report-match-com-sued-10-135313269.html

Please feel free to take time to check it out and get back to me. I find particularly poignant the creepy guy's quote "I wasn't there to hurt her, I was there to kill her." How very reassuring for the victim..."this won't hurt a bit" Yeah, that's what dentists tell me too, and they're always lying. I also recently saw a story where a man told his two pre-pubescent daughters who wanted a dog that they could have one if they could get over a million response hits on FaceBook supporting them. They did. This is wonderful, I thought to myself, remember the day when  a support phone call from Grandpa and Grandma would have done the trick? A million people contacting tow children who haven't even reached puberty, what a smart Dad. I hope the dog he got them is an attack dog for when wicked Uncle Ernie shows up from Peoria to harvest their kidneys. Think about it Dad, try hugging your laptop, now try hugging a puppy. Yeah, and you want your kids to spend more time on social media. Drive carefully, sir.

So, I digressed a bit. That shouldn't surprise anyone who's ever read anything I've written. Back to the cyber-date from hell. She's suing Match.com for $10 million. She's a real estate agent. She can broker seven and eight digit deals and make sure all the t's are crossed and i's dotted and that the deed is signed over and the money properaly escrowed and the provenance is duly noted on the land, but she doesn't have the sense to get a background check on some guy she met online. Lawyers know private investigators, realtors work with lawyers all the time. I wonder if she's disassociative like that because her parents wouldn't get her a puppy when she was seven. Oh well. That's not what's important.

Here's what's important. All the people out there who lapse automatically into that strange zone of thinking that has probably gotten more people killed, injured and pregnant in life than any other. That wonderful little unconscious thought "it won't happen to me" OK, except it wasn't going to happen to her either, but it did. Over thirty....that could be a response to an age question on a dating site or it could be the number of killings both Ted Bundy and John Wayne Gacy are credited with, you choose. Ted raped his victims. Hey, Geoffrey Dalmer ate his. If he was too full to finish, he pickled their remains. To Mr. Dalmer, if you weren't part of the problem, you were part of the solution.  It wasn't going to happen to any of those people either. Here's another highlight, Gacy, Dalmer and Bundy and many of their ilk have something else in common. They didn't have access to dating sites to help them search out victims. We don't put adults pictures on the backs of milk cartons, do we?

You realize with a $10 million dollar lawsuit they're now facing, the dating site would have been better of if he'd succeeded?

But it's never going to happen to you, right? So hey, put on your sexiest outfit and your hottest looking contacts or glasses and clean up or get on your best make up or whatever it is you need to do, and get out there. Plenty of people out there that aren't perving around to eviscerate folks. I always wondered if once people have published profiles they can't find each other. Something a little murky on the screen? Get out there and strut your online stuff, make 'em match this dotcom. Be the flashiest little fishy in the pond. Remember, no one wants to hurt you.....

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